This is not a class about "How to get a man." (Though, of course I hope you meet someone who is a fantastic fit for you.)

This is a class about how to be an excellent partner TO YOURSELF when dating so that you can make choices that honor your true needs.

What's wild is women are taught to focus on relationship above all else. Yet we're given very little (if any!) useful guidance on HOW to choose people who are healthy for us. 

In this class we're going to change all that!

We're going to unpack the sexist, dependency-based, pick me messages you inherited. Reframe dating, relationship, and love through a feminist perspective. And load you up with actionable skills you can start using right away to date and explore relationship in a much more empowered way.

Because not only are we going to upgrade your dating skills & open your eyes with some illuminating self-reflection, we’re going to unpack the massively disempowering "good girl" patriarchal messages we learned about dating & relationships. Things like:

You need to be who others are comfortable with you being to be loved. Being chosen is how you find fulfillment & identity in life. You'll be lost & lonely without "someone." Love is something you earn by giving to others, not about also being loved. Requiring partners to meet you half-way is asking too much. It’s your job to make relationships work. You're selfish for wanting more. Etc.

These messages make women feel scared and desperate… which is the whole point. I know it’s easier said than done, but we are not doing this anymore. We are cancelling our subscription to being desperate, naive, non-threatening maidens who want to be saved. We are upgrading our whole approach to being women who deeply love ourselves & are looking to be MET. And, most importantly, we are developing the skills to deliver on this! I don’t know of anything more radically feminist each of us can do.

If this is the dating and relationship upgrade you're looking for, please join me for this unique, feminist-oriented dating class!

When you sign up, you'll receive the first class. Three days later you'll receive the 2nd class. From there on, you'll receive a class each week for the next 7 weeks. 

You may want to binge this. But I promise there's a LOT in each class & you'll appreciate having time to let the info integrate.

Between 16 hrs of recorded classes & thought provoking self-reflection exercises that accompany each video — 

Your days of feeling confused about how to vet people and wishing someone had taught you how prioritize yourself while dating are about to be over!

Week 1 — Welcome & the patriarchal relationship
The patriarchal relationship we were all born into & how to evolve it into the equitable relationship I know each of you want!

Week 2 — What do you want & non-negotiables
No more settling or compromising your true desires. It's time to own what you truly want, raise your standards, & don't hold back!

Week 3 — Imago pt. 1: Your pattern
You know what you want. Now it's time to get to know the patterns you inherited that have been doing "the choosing" all along.

Week 4 — Imago pt. 2: Who you choose & the role you've played
How has your family patter played itself out in your relationships? When you know the relationship loop you've been on, you can now step in & start making more intentional choices about what's healthy for you — not just what's familiar. 

Week 5 — Green & red flags
It's time to sharpen your green & red flag detector so you can choose people who are healthy for you!

Week 6 — Get your first date game ON!
No more being charming, hoping for the best, & wasting your own time. Be authentic, create a safe plan, & learn how to gracefully "lift up the hood" on the first date to figure out if you're even in the ballpark with this person. 

Week 7  — The vetting process
Learn how to hold your boundaries while getting to know someone, allowing them to show you who they are & feeling into the resonance between you, moving forward in a grounded way & being ok to say goodbye when it's not a healthy fit. 

Week 8 — Love, integration, & completion

What is love, really? And how do we break free from old definitions & roles that no longer fit so we're free to show up authentically & experience love in our lives that truly nourishes us.  

• Learn empowered dating skills through a self-reflective, feminist lens.
• Reclaim your power from the pressure to "be chosen” & become the chooser by first choosing yourself.
• Replace disempowering patriarchal, good girl messages you received about love & relationship with feminist perspectives that lift you up. 
• Clarify your true needs, boundaries, & deal breakers so you can meet new people feeling confident about what does & does not work for you. 
• Feel more mature & skillful in how you approach dating & relationship.
• Ultimately be in a mutually supportive, non-patriarchal relationship & you sense doing some work to unpack your own internalized patriarchy will help you be ready for this.
• Do this work with a group of women who are just as motivated to grow & evolve their approach to dating & relationship as you are!

• Just want something light & easy that will give you a few quick tips to make dating more fun but aren't interested in more substantive change. 
• Feel rushed & stressed about finding someone asap because you're very ill at ease being single.
• Don’t want to self-reflect about your side of things & believe finding someone who seems better will fix things in your life. 
• Want a traditional patriarchal relationship where you’re the nurturing side-kick to a partner who is the center (polarity teachings describe this as being "in your feminine" so you can find a man who "leads.")
• Want a highly polished class with perfect lighting. This class recording is a direct recording of the last time I offered DLAF live. It's authentic, conversational, down to earth, with occasional glitches & interruptions from my cat. If you want to feel like you're truly taking a class with me, you'll love it. If you want something super polished, this isn't for you.

 
Good girl socialization makes us feel disconnected from our authentic self and teaches us to search for our identity and sense of completeness in other people. This inner deprivation creates dependency that leads us to make self-abandoning choices.

I don’t want this for you. I want you to feel FULL within yourself, able to make discerning choices with ease, and look for people who compliment you, not complete you... you're already complete!

If this is the vibe you want for yourself as well and you want support to develop the skills to deliver on this, please join me for this unique, feminist-oriented dating class!

• BLACK FRIDAY SALE: $130 or 2 payments of $65

• 48 HOUR REFUND POLICY: Try the first class & see what you think! If you love it, great. If not, send me an email ([email protected]) within 48 hours of your purchase for a full refund. ***No refunds available after 48 hours of your purchase.

• STRUCTURE: One you sign up, you'll immediately receive the first class. Three days later you'll receive the 2nd class. From there on, you'll receive a class each week for the next 7 weeks. You may want to binge this. But I promise there's a LOT in each class & you'll appreciate having time to let the info integrate.

• CLEAR EXPECTATIONS: This class recording is a direct recording of the last time I offered DLAF live. It's authentic, conversational, down to earth, with occasional glitches & interruptions from my cat. If you want to feel like you're truly taking a class with me, you'll love it. If you want something super polished, this isn't for you.

• PARTY BONUS: Once you sign up you'll get my suggested reading list that will plant all sorts of empowering, I Am The Chooser ideas in your mind.

I'm a feminist-oriented coach and photographer for women. I've worked with women individually and in groups for 20 years. I'm an advocate for women to get free from the codependent, good-girl conditioning that has us looking for security in others. And a guide supporting women to cultivate a solid sense of ground within.

For nearly a decade I facilitated intuition development classes in SF and LA teaching women how to tune into their knowing and deep-down truth — and have the courage to follow it. Prior to that I facilitated several groups a day for about 5 years as a mental health counselor in treatment centers. I've also facilitated hundreds of art classes, holding space for people to tap into their creativity.

In recent years, I’ve been posting daily feminist missives on IG & hosting a whole collection of classes & workshops aimed at helping women recover their authentic personhood & own their power.

My motivation for offering Date Like a Feminist is to pass onto you my hard-won wisdom so that you can strengthen your ability to be a committed partner to yourself while dating sooner & with more ease than I did.

Real talk: I grew up being told some seriously old-school relationship advice. Things like "You need to become who men want you to be" and "It's your job to help men grow." I knew at the time this was terrible advice. But because it was so deeply modeled and required of me, I spent the first 25 years of my dating career repeating it. Until I didn't.

I want that "until I didn't" moment to happen sooner for you. So my intention for this class, and all my offerings, is to be an open book sharing everything I've learned so you can receive the tools, skills, insights, and support you need to approach dating and relationship in a way that works for YOU.

If this is the personalized feminist education and support you need to up your dating game, please join me!