Has this ever happened to you? 100 clients and only one had something critical to say, but she couldn't stop thinking about it. She was coping with it, in her own way - the best way she knew how...a glass of wine, two (maybe four?) hours of scrolling, and a fight with her partner that she knew was unjustified. 

While she was scrolling, she saw a friend had reposted an old TikTok of mine.  It wasn't even what she considered a good TikTok, but she was vibing with everything I was saying - especially wanting to understand how such a crisis (my wedding photographer canceled last minute) was handled so...calmly.

She was already struggling. She felt completely coated in emotions that, no matter how hard she tried not to let them, were coming out in her work. Immense personal losses and financial stress would stop her mid-thought, all day, every day.

What she didn't realize was there were things she had been hiding...silencing, even. We uncovered that her thoughts about her body were affecting her life in pretty significant ways. She was isolating more and more and beating herself up for wanting the isolation. She told me she secretly wanted an intervention, but it seemed like her stuff wasn't that big of a deal. She was comfortable, but stressed. Functioning, but depressed. I asked her about her dreams and goals, and in that moment they felt too out of reach for her to even tell me!

And yet, her telling me that much was her first step toward creating the life she had been craving deep in her bones. Something in her knew it was possible, but she needed a way to see how.

A lot of us like to use social media to see what our colleagues are saying. We may be the ones who help other people all day for a job, but there is something cathartic in learning from our peers. This is basically what happened - the helper (my client) was scrolling looking for help.

My TikTok is sparse. I had deleted my main Instagram earlier in the year - where I had thousands of followers and hundreds of posts. So I was initially confused that she found me on social media at all - most of my business comes from word of mouth and always has. If she didn't tell me herself, I wouldn't believe it was social media that made her book that call with me. She said something in her knew she could tell me anything.

If I'm going to brag or sell anything about myself, it's going to be that! I can hold space in the best way. Personally, I've used the tools I teach to eliminate unnecessary emotional and physical suffering, delete self-loathing (on a 1-10 scale, I hated myself to an 11), and energetically calm and relax myself in minutes where it used to take months or even years. So for her to basically tell me I felt safe - something I hear from clients often, but after working with me - it was not just a compliment, but evidence that the work I do on myself is lasting, and it works. 

Let me finish by telling you that I have her permission to share as much as I've shared. Of course, our coaching time together is confidential.

Her first call with me created the space to release some judgments. About herself, her critical client, and her business. That is some healing work right there - learning how to release judgment and quit beating yourself up!

She booked two more sessions with the goal of simply feeling better and being able to handle criticism at work. Of course, as a coach, I am somewhat psychic. I could see her future. I could see the possibilities. In those two sessions, we opened up her soul to those possibilities. When she decided to continue with a 6 month program, we designed it together with a collaboration of her own vision for her future together with a celebration of the visions she had already made into reality.

While she wasn't comfortable with me sharing actual numbers, we did some math together. She created 7x the sales. SEVEN!

Equally as important, and actually the key to her hitting those financial numbers, was how she felt. Like me, she was using the same tools and she got the same results. Her relationship improved, her clients felt safer with her, which naturally changed the way she dealt with criticism or client problems. She felt more joy. She had more money. And to this day, it has not just lasted, but increased.

I share her story because it is not unique. She is an unimaginably beautiful and unique human. But where she started and where she ended up? Not unique for my clients.

Now, it's your turn. In this one minute, you can decide to simply vent. That's what our first conversation looks like. Me listening. You venting. Solutions will come. Obstacles will be overcome. First? Just us, chatting on Zoom, in person, or on the phone. You can even choose a text session.

Decide after your vent session whether you want to keep going. 

I cannot wait to get to know you.